Comments on: Love in the Time of Layoff: Take This Heart and Shove It

By: Tish

Tish — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 23:58:55 +0000

Just reading this one, though I know you wrote it a while back, Deb. Mike was laid off from his job of 19 years, 11 months and a couple of weeks without a cent of severance pay and nary a happy hour or kind word from those (admittedly few) who remained. As an Editorial Cartoonist, the few jobs in the field have dwindled to almost none, what with newspapers suffering so in this world of “new media” . It’s been a while, and he’s moved on, but the sting of his treatment still hurts me. When they broke up with him, it killed me they could do that to him. Awful. Just awful.

By: Deborah Siegel

Deborah Siegel — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 13:42:26 +0000

Thank you Annie, Kristen, Laura, Jon, Marci, and nelson46 for your feedback! You keep me going And to nelson46: your comment touched and saddened me, inspiring my column today, which will be posted here soon. I hope that your situation eases and that you can find solace in each other, too.

By: nelson46

nelson46 — Tue, 17 Feb 2009 12:38:04 +0000

This is so foreign to me. If you will consider that statement thoughtfully and without bias to myself I will be grateful. I do not know this experience of personality. Deborah, you exhibit here and in the Slate linked article a personality so bountiful with beauty and grace of maturity and personal insight. That I in 25 years of marriage and 27 years in this relationship have not known what you have described in both posts. Is my wife’s need to exclaim disdain (never ending) so immature? She says she has the right to make it known that I have not made enough money. I am self employed, a general contractor and have not had jobs like I used to. With the fear of having little money, and it’s happened before to me with the same response from her, I let her have her disdain. It grates me sometimes and we argue. Is she unlike those you know, and how did you decide it wasn’t disdainful?

By: marci alboher

marci alboher — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 23:36:07 +0000

Just discovered this column, which couldn’t be more needed at this moment. Looking forward to future installments!

By: Jon Gordon

Jon Gordon — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 22:24:39 +0000

Deep, thoughtful, progressive story of the pain of the layoff on the person and the family. Yes, it is that painful, being jilted. You feel alone, you need to heal, and worse, in this economy, you feel afraid. Excellent post, and thank you for sharing your feelings.

By: Laura Mazer

Laura Mazer — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 05:03:07 +0000

Oh wow. SPOT ON. someone once told me “you can’t understand what it’s like to be laid off until you’ve gone through it.” i nodded and rolled my eyes. then i got laid off. NOW i get it. it’s getting broken up with. it’s the “sorry, it’s me not you,” breakup, too, which is even more infuriating. BRAVO for this writing you’re doing.

By: Ellacec Publishing

Ellacec Publishing — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 02:31:28 +0000

Ellacec Publishing has released “Surviving a Layoff” by author Theresa Banks. Readers across the States should pick up a copy for themselves and their family, to learn additional strategies on how to survive a layoff. Books are available at amazon.com.

email – mail2banks@aol.com

web – http://www.myspace.com/ellacec

By: Kristen

Kristen — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 02:14:41 +0000

Awesome post, Deborah–it totally expresses the feeling of that perilous ex-co-worker existence. Thank you so much for sharing this!

By: annie

annie — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 21:26:05 +0000

We continue to dodge the lay off bullets here, and Canadians are surprisingly willing to buy into the idea that nothing like what is happening in the States could happen here. But, I see many of the same economic signs in the air as I did when I was in Iowa just two short years ago. I am not as sure.

Keep seeking your zen like center.

By: Where You Can Find Me Today… | Girl with Pen

Where You Can Find Me Today… | Girl with Pen — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 19:01:37 +0000

[...] I’m excited to bring you my new column over at Recessionwire.com: LOVE IN THE TIME OF LAYOFF: Take This Heart and Shove It. It’s a Valentine’s Day special in which I give my husbands ex-employers a lil piece [...]