Comments on: Love in the Time of Layoff: Two’s a Crowd http://www.recessionwire.com/2009/02/05/love-in-the-time-of-layoff-two%e2%80%99s-a-crowd/ The upside of the downturn Fri, 03 Feb 2012 18:42:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.2 By: Recessionwire.com in NYTimes! | Girl with Pen http://www.recessionwire.com/2009/02/05/love-in-the-time-of-layoff-two%e2%80%99s-a-crowd/comment-page-1/#comment-54 Recessionwire.com in NYTimes! | Girl with Pen Mon, 09 Feb 2009 13:54:08 +0000 http://www.recessionwire.com/?p=525#comment-54 [...] do, I’d be a slightly happier recessionista these days.  In the meantime, new installment (“Love in the Time of Layoff”) from me over there coming on [...] [...] do, I’d be a slightly happier recessionista these days.  In the meantime, new installment (“Love in the Time of Layoff”) from me over there coming on [...]

]]> By: Deborah Siegel http://www.recessionwire.com/2009/02/05/love-in-the-time-of-layoff-two%e2%80%99s-a-crowd/comment-page-1/#comment-53 Deborah Siegel Mon, 09 Feb 2009 13:49:52 +0000 http://www.recessionwire.com/?p=525#comment-53 Thank you, PursePundit, Bob, and Jen, for your wonderful comments! Your feedback and kind words keep me going. Stay tuned. Thank you, PursePundit, Bob, and Jen, for your wonderful comments! Your feedback and kind words keep me going. Stay tuned.

]]> By: Jen http://www.recessionwire.com/2009/02/05/love-in-the-time-of-layoff-two%e2%80%99s-a-crowd/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Jen Thu, 05 Feb 2009 22:42:06 +0000 http://www.recessionwire.com/?p=525#comment-36 Hysterical and true and painful. It's easy to hold onto a philosophy when it's not being tested, but bring on the test and... woosh... sometimes. Thanks for your honesty. Let his liberation help you with yours! Hysterical and true and painful. It’s easy to hold onto a philosophy when it’s not being tested, but bring on the test and… woosh… sometimes. Thanks for your honesty. Let his liberation help you with yours!

]]> By: Bob Lamm http://www.recessionwire.com/2009/02/05/love-in-the-time-of-layoff-two%e2%80%99s-a-crowd/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Bob Lamm Thu, 05 Feb 2009 20:52:54 +0000 http://www.recessionwire.com/?p=525#comment-34 Very nice piece, Deborah, as always. Especially in times like this, being honest in the ways you are is really important. If everyone simply puts out messages like "I'm fine, we're fine, we've got it all together," all it does is leave people feeling more alone because they are NOT fine but are inevitably going through waves of emotion, not all of them smooth and pretty. In terms of genuinely being at peace with nontraditional gender roles or anything else nontraditional, I believe that's not as true for many of us as we'd like to believe. Whether we're in a recession, in a crisis period like 9/11 and after, or a supposedly more "normal" time, who among us has grown up in an authentically feminist world where nontraditional roles are the norm? Most of us have had a very heavy exposure to the traditional norms, values, and biases of our culture. So of course those norms, values, and biases are still in us to some degree--even if we've made conscious and determined efforts to change and to live in a different way. Very nice piece, Deborah, as always. Especially in times like this, being honest in the ways you are is really important. If everyone simply puts out messages like “I’m fine, we’re fine, we’ve got it all together,” all it does is leave people feeling more alone because they are NOT fine but are inevitably going through waves of emotion, not all of them smooth and pretty.

In terms of genuinely being at peace with nontraditional gender roles or anything else nontraditional, I believe that’s not as true for many of us as we’d like to believe. Whether we’re in a recession, in a crisis period like 9/11 and after, or a supposedly more “normal” time, who among us has grown up in an authentically feminist world where nontraditional roles are the norm?
Most of us have had a very heavy exposure to the traditional norms, values, and biases of our culture. So of course those norms, values, and biases are still in us to some degree–even if we’ve made conscious and determined efforts to change and to live in a different way.

]]> By: Pursepundit http://www.recessionwire.com/2009/02/05/love-in-the-time-of-layoff-two%e2%80%99s-a-crowd/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Pursepundit Thu, 05 Feb 2009 19:48:47 +0000 http://www.recessionwire.com/?p=525#comment-33 I love your writing, your honesty, your willingness to explore your feelings and put it out there. Thanks... I love your writing, your honesty, your willingness to explore your feelings and put it out there. Thanks…

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